MAY 2010 - OCTober 2011

Greetings Vywamus,

Six months have passed now where I have had many near black outs. Are these really necessary to get me on the path to clear out parasites ? Why didn't these happen before I moved interstate ? How can I be of assistance to mankind once I am free of these blockages ?
Blessings.
Ruth

Dear Ruth,

While I do not give specific diagnostic or therapeutic medical advice through this channel, for you and for others who are also challenged with physical problems, I do have some general suggestions, and some words to say about other aspects of medical conditions.

When someone asks for help in a medical situation, I always suggest that first you look for the very best that Western medicine has to give you, and also the very best that alternative medicine can offer. This is, of course, a commonsense part of everyone’s responsibility to provide the best possible care for your body, your faithful companion on your path. You have done this, to some extent, already, and I urge you to be very thorough in exploring every option. Particularly with near blackouts, which can occur as part of many different medical conditions, it is important for you to explore every possibility.

From a larger perspective, living with a medical condition always brings important lessons, whether practical ones such as learning how to pay attention to and care for your body, or karmic and other lessons your soul came here to experience. However, I want to emphasize for everyone that a medical condition is not a detour on your spiritual path, but is an essential part of it. It is part of what you came here to do. And your ability to be of assistance to humanity and to contribute to the world is not at all dependent on waiting until health problems and their associated emotional energies are resolved.

Right in the midst of your medical problems, you are in a position to help the world. First and foremost, your contribution to the world is always to spend as much time as possible being in the light, in touch with your inner Being, and in touch with the aliveness that is always there within you. Meditation is one way to be in this state of higher consciousness, of course, or you can use whatever way you have found works for you. One way of entering this higher state that may be especially helpful when you have a physical problem is to focus on going deeply into the energy field of your body, beneath and beyond the surface level where the pain and other problems typically are, deep into the very core of your physical being. And simply be there. Just your spending some time every day being in this higher state of consciousness helps all beings on the planet – and it is good for your body as well.

Second, be mindful of the opportunities for growth a physical ailment provides on your path, for learning greater and greater acceptance of the reality of the present moment, even while you have this physical problem. Accept it all -- the ailment, the resistance you feel to having it, the actions you may need to take to care for your body, the role you play in allowing others to help you, or in presenting a challenge to physicians and other practitioners that enhances their learning. And of course, accept the knowledge that you have a deeper Life in you that is beyond the physical, that you may access in meditation or other ways. All this is part of your contribution to the world.

For you, Ruth, there is a high probability that some aspects of your physical problem will be resolved soon, especially if you carry out the suggestions I’ve given you here. Then, certainly, other ways to be of service will come to your attention and we will help you notice them. You are definitely needed for other service in the future. And, this future service may well be based on the learnings you are getting now, in the course of dealing with the physical problem you have.

But meanwhile -- and I say this for everyone, because perhaps 90% of you reading this will be facing a major or minor physical problem sometime before you leave this body—embrace your physical conditions and the situations you are put in because of them. They are an essential part of your journey, and may be the foundation for your next step.

And, whatever you have to deal with, please remember, we are always here to guide and support you through it all.

Blessings,

Vywamus

Dear Vywamus,
 

A Call from Denmark
The other day I read about you in a book of Doreen Virtue and felt deeply that I … had to try and get in contact with you. I found this fantastic website… Thank you Andrea for sharing and giving this to us and thank you Vywamus for your beloved and enriched answers.
 

I seek for… guidance in my personal life and would have liked an individual setting but it’s not possible for me right now. I try this instead thinking that some of my… life themes may be recognizable to others.
 

One of the main themes is fear. How to face and transform fear, how to avoid creating and attracting fearful situations and people that can bring fear into your life, and to find out when fear is an illusion or real and you therefore need to act and need protection … I want to have the courage to be who I am and stand up for my beliefs... I so much feel that I need a spiritual teacher now in order to open up to find answers but I just don’t know how and where to find such a teacher.
 

I will be grateful if you will spent some time on giving me some advice.
Thank you. Yours sincerely,
Gitte
 

Dear Gitte,
 

From Andrea and myself, you are most welcome, and we are both glad you have found us on this web site. And we hear and understand your struggle. It isn’t surprising that you often feel the lack of a spiritual teacher, as do so many others. This is partly because you’re living in a time of transition, where forms are changing.
 

Gradually you are all becoming your own spiritual teachers and finding the guidance you need within yourselves rather than at the feet of a master. But meanwhile, in the transition, you may feel somewhat lost and alone, which is why I and other guides who work with me come to you in dreams, or in meditation, and also through books you may read, people you may encounter, and here on the Internet, of course. Even before you received this response to your questions – in fact, as soon as you asked them – I and other guides have been working with you both in dreams and while you’re awake, to bring you insights and help you shift your energies into a more satisfying pattern for you.
 

Now to your main question: What about fear? Fear is an amazing teacher for you and for all humans. It can be one of the greatest helps on your spiritual path. And to begin with, the most important thing to remember is, don’t fight it or try to make it go away, or even try to transform it. Instead, if you can find a way to fully accept your fear and even embrace it as an ally in your learning, it will eventually transform itself. When fear comes up in a situation, the first thing to do is pay attention and watch it arise. The second thing is to keep breathing. The third thing is to say to the fear, in some form, “ I accept you as part of my everyday reality right now.”
 

Part of you will be watching, breathing, and accepting, and part of you may well be submerged in the fear, your mind repeating over all the things you fear will happen, your emotions and body reacting, tightening up, perhaps your stomach in knots, your breathing faster, and so on. Maybe at some point you will get totally submerged in fear. That’s all right, it’s just part of the learning process.
 

At that point, if you can take some time in a private place, it can be very helpful to accept the fear I a bodily way. Move your body in tune with the fear, let the fear flow through it. Express your fear in movements, make fearful noises, and keep breathing long, deep breaths and letting them out fully. You may want to moan or whimper, or make short exclamations such as, “Oh no!” or “I’m so afraid,” or whatever comes up. Stay with the feeling. Don’t let the mind get involved in explaining all the reasons you are afraid, just feel.
 

As you do this, you may gradually notice, underneath the fear, a deep sense of energy and aliveness. Your fear may gradually shift into another emotion, possibly anger, or determination. If so, stay with that feeling for a while and see where it leads. Make movements, sounds, and statements to go with the new feelings. You may now find yourself saying things like “No, I won’t!” or “Yes, I will!” or “Never again!” and so forth.
 

The first time you work with your emotions in this way, you may feel this shift, and your body, if you keep paying attention to it, and breathing, will guide you into what to do next. If you don’t feel a shift the first time around, keep going. At the very least you will be relieving some of the static and pressure of your fearful thoughts by letting them flow through the body and not stay trapped going round and round in your head. Definitely a step in the right direction!
 

After this work, when the fear pressure is a bit lessened, take some time to meditate in whatever form you like to use. There are many good books and recordings to help you get into the deeper and broader levels of your consciousness, beyond your everyday worries and concerns. Go there as often as you can. Healing and comfort are there, along with the awareness of the great force of life within yourself, and the awareness of the You that is always all right and never can be harmed – the You that need never fear. When you are in this state of being, you need no protection and need not be concerned with protection. Any action that you need to take in your everyday life will arise of itself from this state of deep aliveness, without your figuring it all out with your mind. You will be led to do the “right’ things. You can trust this guidance.
 

So go to this place often until you feel and know for yourself that deep sense of peace, trust, and aliveness. It is your destiny and that of all humans to be more and more in this state of consciousness. And thank the fear that pushed you into finding it.
 

These steps I suggest will help you if you try them. They will also help with the other challenges you are facing. Please know that I and other guides fully understand how it is to be you, to feel fear and to face the many situations you have to deal with. And of course, go inside and call on us at any time for our help and support.
 

Warmly,
Vywamus 

Dear Vywamus,
 

Today I experienced you through a friend in Sun City, AZ so did a Google search, finding you here. I feel I am meant to remember our connection and would appreciate any insight you would offer as to our relationship…
 

Like many who write you I feel like I am currently existing in ‘Limbo land’, but do realize this is all in divine order and part of the exercise in ‘just being’… My question has to do with my ‘secondary purpose’. I’ve been tested through loss, letting go and finally surrendering to God’s will. Because of this experience/journey I am thinking that this is something I took on… so that I can share it with others… Yet the final key to this experience has not arrived – the key that would make the ‘story’ worth sharing, i.e. the miracle manifestation based solely on faith and surrender – not doing.
 

Am I on track…?
 

Blessings, Joseph [Surprise, AZ]
 

Dear Joseph,
 

Thank you for writing, you’ve put into words what you and many others are experiencing right now. Our connection is that you have in other lives been a student of mine, and of the other masters you mentioned. You are continuing your learning with us, especially in the dream state. I and the other guides commend you for your level of acceptance of loss, of being temporarily in limbo, and of surrendering to God.
 

All this has well prepared you to teach and help others. The opportunity to do so and the forms you need will crystallize in time. You can be alert for such opportunities in your daily life, but practice not being attached to finding them right away. Don’t be trapped into somehow expecting a manifestation, whether internal or external. That lets your ego pull you into looking for a future “result,” which of course gets you away from being present in the now.
 

You are on track, particularly in the sense that your loss experience and your process of dealing with it are important for your soul’s growth and for opening up new roles for you in teaching and helping others – eventually. But the growth and opening cannot be rushed. The ego, of course, likes goals and results, and will always attempt to persuade you to try to make something happen, right now.
 

Your best bet, however, is to stay as much as you can in the not-doing, the surrender, and simply be. Spend as much time as possible in the wider consciousness of meditation, surrender, and acceptance. Feel the joy of being there. If you get impatient and want “results,’ simply watch these thoughts arise and accept them like a wave passing over you. Of course, try out whatever comes along that attracts you. Eventually the right action will arise out of being in this higher state and your next step will be clear and joyous.
 

Meanwhile, I would like to point out that even if at this time you are taking no specific action in your everyday world, just by being present in that broader, deeper level of consciousness (whether you reach it in meditation or some other way), you are already a source of light, radiating the higher energies and so greatly helping others and the planet. You and others who can do this are particularly needed at this time to contribute in this way. Please feel free to call on me or the other guides at any time, and you can also, before sleeping, make the intention to remember our work together in the dream state.
 

We thank you for your service.
 

Warmly,
Vywamus 

Dear Vywamus,
 

I am interested in how to connect with my inner being and the higher realms. Is there a guide line to follow? Whom do I ask for help?
 

I am fairly new to these concepts and have learned how to do Reiki, so that was my first opening door. I sooo want to learn more. I have been told I am going to be a very strong healer and very needed, so I need all the help I can get to evolve.
 

Thank you,
Mary Ann
 

Dear Mary Ann,
 

Congratulations on getting to this point. You have many beautiful learnings and experiences ahead on your spiritual path. I and the other guides are glad for you.
 

Since you have already laid a fine foundation with the Reiki, perhaps you can start there, continuing to practice Reiki on yourself, on others, on the Earth, on pets or plants, and learning more and more about the higher Energy that flows through you when doing the healing work. As you probably learned in your Reiki training, this Energy flows through you to heal, whether you can at first perceive it or not. As you pay attention and further attune yourself to the Energy, you can develop your ability to perceive it more easily, and allow a greater flow to come through you.
 

You will find many writings that tell of others’ experiences in the higher realms. These can be good food for your mind, and may whet your enthusiasm for your own further explorations, But they will not be enough. On the spiritual path words and writings are no substitute for your own direct experience. So, in addition to the Reiki I would also recommend that you try out various forms of both movement and sitting meditation.
 

There are many good books which describe the various forms of meditation you can use, and I have gone into detail about some of these forms in other letters on this web site. If you have already looked through them you’ve probably seen that much of the advice there about how to connect to your inner being applies to you as well.
 

You may also try some of the many audio recordings that are designed to lead you into a state of higher consciousness, and see which are helpful to you. And finally, you might look into Part Two of my book, The Next Big Bang: The Explosion of Human Consciousness where I present in an easy to use form a set of exercises for accessing your inner being and the higher realms of consciousness. All these may be helpful to you, and it is not necessary that you follow all the directions to the letter. These are only forms designed to help you make a space in your awareness to allow a direct connection to your inner being. So try them out, and then trust your own inner wisdom as to how you use them.
 

As for asking for help, you may already be aware of having some help from various beings, especially those who specialize in healing, while doing your Reiki, and you may get a clearer sense of them as you continue to work together. And for personal guidance and supportive energy on your path, you may ask me, or any one of us guides and teachers that you feel drawn to. We are all here and always available as your companions on this exciting journey. Call on us any time.
 

Fondly,
Vywamus 

Dear Vywamus,
My name is Walter and I was wondering if you had anything to tell me about my growth in my spiritual world. And I sure miss having sessions with you.
 

Dear Walter,
 

I well understand that at times you feel alone and in need of reassurance. So I would like to assure you, your spiritual growth is proceeding well, whether you are aware of it or not. It will go even better if you don’t forget to notice that every day in your “ordinary” life presents you with events that have a deeper meaning. They are all gifts or challenges on your spiritual path. Keep responding to them as such.
 

I and your larger Self are always with you to give you inner guidance in waking life and in dreams. I would add that our sessions together do go on, in the dream state, and you and I are doing a lot there together. If you wish to “tune in” better to these dream sessions while you’re actually awake, I suggest you look through the letters on this page and the material on the News page, for advice I have given others on tuning in to spiritual guidance.
 

It is no accident that you, and many others, are not right now in a position to receive guidance in personal sessions. For some this is because of financial limitations, and for others a trustworthy channel or psychic may simply be unavailable at this time. And often the reason for this is that you are at a point on your path where you need to be spurred on to developing your own inner wisdom and learning to trust it. This is the point where you are now. As you develop this aspect of yourself, you will connect inwardly with me and other guides, and eventually even reconnect with others in body who can reinforce and validate what you are learning.
 

So, be encouraged that you are in exactly the right phase of your learning right now. And I will see you in the dream state, and in other states as you continue to grow.
 

Warmly,
Vywamus 

Dear Vywamus,

I have recently “discovered” you…and… I want to ask you to address the issue of religious baggage for some of us who have open hearts and really want to learn and grow and contribute….I was raised…Catholic… but even at a young age felt that there was “more” out there, that God was bigger than even the church taught, etc….Jesus, or Jeshua as I have come to know him has been a touch stone lately, and I wanted to ask you your thoughts on how those of us steeped deep in dogma can be healed to embrace the larger whole.
Thank you,
Francine

Dear Francine,
I see you are already finding your way. For you as a Christian, spending time being present in the energy of Jesus (or Jeshua) is perhaps the most effective way of all to heal and embrace the larger whole.

Often in human history a powerful stream of Energy/Consciousness from the level of Spirit has come to you. And inevitably, usually in a well meaning effort to preserve and carry on this stream, humans have constructed around it a structure of beliefs, rules, and rituals – that is, a “religion.” This is the case with all your major religions. Yet since every religion is a human organization, built by humans, the form of the organization itself is subject to human limitations. And so the pure stream of Energy and Consciousness that Jesus (and other great teachers and masters) brought to humanity has been filtered through the minds and egos of the people who received it, through the framework of beliefs about God and the world that were current at the time. Your religion and other religions, since their beginnings, have continued to be strained through successive “mind” filters right up through the present day.

When a human organization is established to define and carry on the spiritual energies and message, it is subject to the same problems, dynamics, politics, and shortcomings as any other human organization. This is a mind and ego dominated form, and it is a pattern typical of the stage most humans have evolved to, so far. To get out of this pattern – and you will, eventually -- humans need to evolve so that your minds/egos contribute to but do not dominate the process. You will need to get beyond trying, as the mind always now wants to do, to “nail down” the message and set up rules and dogmas and rituals around it. 

In a sense, the mind is always trying to get the spiritual energies “under control.” Of course you can’t do that. These energies are alive and evolving in your heart and everywhere. And the best way to get back to the “original” message and let it grow within you is to do exactly what you are doing: go to the pure stream of Energy and Consciousness where the message came from, and keep spending time being present there – in your case, with Jesus. Or with another teacher, if you are of another religious background.

By the way, you don’t have to intentionally set about “ditching” or rebelling against the religious structures in your past. You can do so if you wish, and if it seems to be part of your growth. But this is not really a polarity where you have to choose between a religious affiliation and an experience of the broader spiritual energies you long for. Rather than an “either-or” situation, it can be “both-and.” You can embrace religion as one aspect of Spirit, a human and limited aspect which is never able to “contain” or fully express Spirit, yet which may be helpful at times on your spiritual path.

If you keep spending time with Jesus in that pure stream of Energy/Consciousness he brings, you will simply find that you are in harmony with the deepest core meanings of your religion (of any religion), and that nonessential or limiting beliefs and structures will simply fall away, or their importance to you will shrink, so that they are no longer a problem. You will have eyes only for what is essential. You can embrace the limited view of Spirit offered by a religion as one part of the infinite whole – one view through a limited human perspective – one view among the infinite number of views in the infinite sight of the Divine.
With love and encouragement to you on your path,
Vywamus

Dear Vywamus,

I am caught up in a complete veil of confusion at the moment and would like your help. I have been on a path of healing in many different forms, but currently am struggling to make them work together in a way that makes sense. Can you see a path clear of how I make it all work in a way that actually benefits all the people that I want it to, yet still challenging me intellectually, and not causing me to personally fall victim to my own many many thoughts?
Regards,
Tammra

Dear Tammra,
To you and to many others who are torn between many paths I would say, there is a great tendency at this time to overthink decisions in your life situation. And while your mind can gather for you much useful information, it can only take you so far. You must go beyond your mind to find the solutions you want. Otherwise, you will keep circling round and round in a loop of pros and cons and “what if’s” without any lasting sense of conviction. And, by the way, your mind is getting tired and bored with going round and round with your problems. Why not give it something interesting or creative to do that is not related to your problems, while you explore other approaches?

Some of my suggestions here you may have tried already, though probably not all of them. I am giving them all here so that other readers with concerns like yours can try them. And I ask you to be open minded about trying them again, perhaps coming from a different standpoint.

To deal with your confusion among alternatives, and how to make them work together, you have many more resources than you have been using. So first, pay more attention to the intelligence of your heart. Amidst all this mental confusion, notice where your heart is drawn to go, and follow it. If you have trouble feeling connection to your heart, or if it seems to want to go in more than one direction, pay attention to the intelligence of your body. This is a real resource that many of you don’t use. Your body is constantly giving you feedback on how you feel about people and events and choices in your life. The feedback comes in many forms – everything from muscle tension and holding your breath to a bodily relaxation and a sense of wellbeing. Bringing a problem to mind and then allowing your feelings to be expressed in physical movement or dancing is one bodily way to get clearer on what your real feelings and desires are, and also to eliminate some of the confusing static that arises in your mind when you have pent up emotions. Dance your confusion, dance your attraction or resistance to the alternatives facing you. And so on.

Finally, activate more fully your connection with Spirit, either by meditation, prayer, or in other ways that work for you. When you spend some time every day in the still and deeply alive place at the core of your being, while you are there you attain a sense of inner peace which comes out of simply being, and being present there. In this state you realize that the agitation and confusion among alternatives you experience are simply ways your mind/ego has of keeping you busy. In the state of deep stillness, it may be obvious to you what I often tell people – that is, you are here on this earth to be. That is everyone’s destiny. If you can do this, you are fulfilling your purpose here. Period. And often out of being fully present in the deep stillness within, there will effortlessly emerge things that you feel inclined to do, and any doing you need to engage in can and does easily emerge.

Of course, there are many paths of doing that each of you may take while here on earth in body. Every one of them leads to some important learning. It may make you feel better to know that in a sense, there is no one “perfect” or “right” path for you. All paths eventually lead you back to the Infinite, your Home.

So, be easy. Pay attention to your heart and your body. Your mind doesn’t have to do everything. Indeed, it can’t. Go to the level of Spirit often. As you spend time there you will find certain inclinations to act emerging. You may end up choosing one of the paths you are considering, or a combination, or something entirely new. The main thing for you at this time is to get out of that unending mind/ego cycle where you will find much information but no satisfying answers. As I said, to find a solution to your challenges you must go beyond the (mind) framework where they are generated. When you do so, the answers you need will emerge. This is the life lesson in front of you and many others at this time: to go beyond.

Finally, be aware that we teachers and guides are always with you, and sending you the support and insights you need, in dreams and in the waking state. Watch for us. Call on us.
Warmly,
Vywamus

Dear Vywamus,

What about the crisis in Greece? It will be resolved normally and quickly?
Thank you

Agapi Kousi

Dear Agapi,

Although I do not make specific, concrete predictions, at this time the probabilities are that Greece will recover gradually over the course of several years. Notice that I say “probabilities.” These depend on many conditions, including choices made by many people, and they shift so much from hour to hour to hour that making an accurate prediction is not really possible. So I give you probabilities.

I’m answering your question on this page because it is relevant for many people right now. Greece’s problems are not occurring in a vacuum. Around the globe the economies and politics of many countries are in turmoil. This is partly due to shortsighted policies on the part of your leaders. But I would add that it is also a result of the beginning of a vast shift in all areas of human life. Old forms that used to work for you are breaking down – not only in the area of economics but also in politics, communication, education, religion, family life styles, your relationship to the Earth, and so on. As this shift goes on you will all develop new forms, but that hasn’t yet happened. You are still in the period of breakdown of old forms, and the very beginnings of ideas for new, more effective forms. So economic and other troubles in Greece and other countries are just one expression of this breakdown of forms.

Humanity will move out of this stage and into the new forms you need, but how fast you do this depends on choices you all make. Naturally some will drag their heels and keep trying to make the old ways work, while others will be ready to move forward and find the new forms you need.

What do you do in the meantime? There are lessons to be learned in the current period of turmoil. Perhaps the two most important are the interdependence of all humans on each other, and the need to understand what are your true priorities in life.

The new forms you need, economically and otherwise, will depend on your thinking globally, and seeing how much you depend on each other and how much your own welfare relates to the welfare of others in other countries. Concerning economics, there is a natural physical baseline of your material needs: adequate food, clothing, shelter, and medical care. How may you best help each other so that everyone eventually reaches this baseline? An overall attitude of compassion and collaboration, rather than competition, will be important in your developing successful new forms.

Second, it will be important to do some soul searching about what your real priorities are and whether they produce the fulfillment in life that you want. Maybe in the current economic times you are feeling the pinch, and feeling deprived of some of the material things you are accustomed to having. These may be “extras” or even necessities. For those of you who are worried about basic necessities, we send you our love and support. This is an opportunity to come together with others to help fulfill each others’ basic needs, and to develop your creativity in finding new ways to get your needs met. I do not say that this is easy. Yet in the ways you handle this hardship and help others to do so, be sure that your contribution is important. Your life can make a difference.

For those of you who are being deprived of some of the “extras,” or who are worried that that will happen, you have some questions to ask yourself. Beyond the baseline of your physical needs, has having more material things brought you lasting satisfaction and security, or has it eventually led to your feeling the need of even more things? How do you enjoy and value nonmaterial things such as your relationships with family and friends, your creative activities, your spiritual experiences, and so forth? Beyond the baseline need for certain material things, what makes, for you, a rich and fulfilling life?

The current shakeup of economies in many countries offers all of you the opportunity to learn much about how you all depend on each other, and about what you really value in life. Your embracing these challenges and responding to them will be helpful. The sooner you begin to learn these lessons, and incorporate them into new forms, the sooner you will pass out of this current period of turmoil.

Meanwhile, I and other guides and teachers are always here to give you our love and support. Do not hesitate to contact us in meditation, or ask for our help in dreams.

Warmly,

Vywamus

…I am writting to ask Vywamus is there such a thing as twin soul and if this is correct is there one for me at this moment? In this life time and if so, i can i know?
I know that is a simple thing to ask but i feel that there is a void in me, of cours being on my own for a long time, is not doing much for the moment...
Jacqueline

 Dear Jacqueline,

So many of you ask about twin souls and soul mates, that I have decided to offer here some guidance on the subject. This longing for soul mates certainly reflects the loneliness and sense of incompleteness that many of you are feeling now. As a general answer, I would say that most of you do have a soul mate. Most often, one of you is in body and the other is between lives, but closely connected to you, and those soul mates between lives may be even more helpful to you than if you were to meet them in body. When you are both in body at the same time, you usually do meet each other, and you may have the glorious reunion you picture and hope for, but at other times this does not work out well, because of baggage either of you may be carrying, and your meeting up again incarnated may be painful and full of problems. Such problems do not occur if one of you is out of body. In that situation, the soul connection is uppermost and so your relationship can be at its most harmonious. If you have a soul mate who is not in body, you can often learn to have an internal dialogue or receive dream messages from him or her, and this can comfort you, help you grow, and help you toward a better relationship next time you are both in body.

To learn more about whether you yourself have a soul mate living in body now, and what the outlook is for meeting and creating a good earth life together, I always recommend that you have a personal reading with a psychic, channel, or other intuitive reader that you trust. It requires going into depth and detail beyond what can be done briefly on this web page.

As to the loneliness and sense of incompleteness, whether or not you find a soul mate in or out of body, these feelings in you reflect a passage you are going through on your spiritual path.They are a painful spur to help you get out of the old mindset that leads you to believe that you are separate, and that there is something or someone “out there" which will make you complete. You are complete. But to realize and enjoy your completeness, you must get beyond the level of your limited everyday self, which is usually so dominated by the narrow ideas of your mind/ego. If you stay in the limited mind focus, you will never be satisfied because you’ll be looking for your completeness and fulfillment in the wrong place. So, go beyond the everyday level into the infinitely deep and joyful level of your larger Self. On this ASK VYWAMUS page and on my NEWS page you can read a number of my suggestions on meditation and other ways to get beyond the level of everyday reality. When you spend time there in that larger Reality beyond the everyday, suffering disappears, and you will know without doubt that you are complete and that you are not alone, but are always held lovingly in the deep Aliveness that is the root of your being.

Now, of course we guides know that even while you practice and enjoy being in that larger Reality, you still need company and love from other humans in the everyday world. You are not expected to lead a totally self-sufficient and isolated life. Sometimes after you let go of the need to be completed by another, a soul mate appears. Other times that does not happen but you realize that you have much support and love around you that you were ignoring while focusing on needing “the one and only” person. Or you realize that you need to focus for awhile on loving yourself, before you can let love in from others. Just be assured that you will have enough love, that love is being given to you, at this moment and always. Let it in, of course. But don’t expect the limited love of anyone to make you a complete person, that will not happen even if the soul mate shows up. No other can make you complete because you already are. You must let yourself move to the level where you can notice and acknowledge that. The bonus is that if you do that, any earthly relationships you do have will be much better than if you had put expectations on them that are impossible to fulfill.

I send my love and blessing to all of you who are working on relationships. That truly is one of the most rewarding, and demanding, experiences of being human.

Warmly,

Vywamus

30 May 2010

Dear Vywamus, I am struggling to overcome my disability/energy crisis and having challenges at home with my teenage son and his negativity/health challenges. Mostly I am expending my energy into maintaining the home/finances, but my heart desires to heal myself/family and extend healing/love energy outward. I am basically about ready to give up, because within my own strength I can't do it all! Am I destined to be a lightworker or should I just accept life as it is and be at peace and just let it all go? Something has to give here, I am just not sure what that something should be! Love and Light, Laura Dewitt

Dear Laura,

Congratulations! Your feeling that something has to give, that you’re about ready to give up because you can’t do it all with your own strength – these are absolutely right and are actually very positive signs. This is definitely a phase on your spiritual path in which you are being asked to let go. Not give up, but let go. You are ready to let go of the old, restricting view of the world created by your mind and ego, and enter a new spaciousness at the soul level.

The challenges with your disability and energy, your son, your finances – these are simply temporary forms in the “laboratory” of your current life. They may bring you interesting, sometimes difficult, lessons that draw forth in you courage, love, and wisdom. But where you and so many others get stuck is in thinking that these challenges and “problems” are all there is to your life. Your mind and ego tell you that if you could only solve or get rid of these challenges, then you could really progress spiritually, and really be a light worker.

I see you as already a light worker. The problem is your not being aware of it. This lack of awareness usually comes from getting so caught up in the forms of everyday life that you don’t allow yourself enough time to be in touch with your own essence, your soul, the deep underlying aliveness in the core of your being.

You may already have some favorite ways of making space for your soul. It needn't take hours every day. Five minutes a day might be enough, if that’s what you have. I often recommend meditation, dancing and movement, creative work, enjoying the senses of your physical body, enjoying the company of people you like, letting healing energy flow – and don’t forget laughter. True laughter frees you in the space of one moment from the burdens that press down on you. You can read over my recommendations to others on this web page and see if there are some there that work especially well for you. However you do it, spending more time connecting with your soul will bring a shift inside so that you’re not so apt to get overwhelmed by everyday life problems. Some of them may even solve themselves. And from this place, you will eventually see your path more clearly, and any actions you need to take – whether about solving “problems” or about bringing your light to others -- will emerge.

Remember, nothing can prevent you from being a light worker right now, right here, because you already are. You are bringing your light to all these situations you have mentioned. And if you’re not always getting obvious results from bringing your light, don’t be fooled by this. Whether you realize it or not, your light is already spreading out and affecting all the people and situations you’re coming in contact with.

And, in the future it is very likely that your light work will take new forms, some of them more like what you picture now when you think of sending out love and healing in your family and the world. Meanwhile, please let go and relax about needing to achieve certain specific goals right now. Simply be open to the depths of your soul and your own inner wisdom, and the goals will come to fruition at the right time.

And lean on me and the other guides. We are always with you, always sending you our love and energy.

Affectionately,

Vywamus