…I am writting to ask Vywamus is there such a thing as twin soul and if this is correct is there one for me at this moment? In this life time and if so, i can i know? I know that is a simple thing to ask but i feel that there is a void in me, of cours being on my own for a long time, is not doing much for the moment… Jacqueline
Dear Jacqueline,
So many of you ask about twin souls and soul mates, that I have decided to offer here some guidance on the subject. This longing for soul mates certainly reflects the loneliness and sense of incompleteness that many of you are feeling now. As a general answer, I would say that most of you do have a soul mate. Most often, one of you is in body and the other is between lives, but closely connected to you, and those soul mates between lives may be even more helpful to you than if you were to meet them in body. When you are both in body at the same time, you usually do meet each other, and you may have the glorious reunion you picture and hope for, but at other times this does not work out well, because of baggage either of you may be carrying, and your meeting up again incarnated may be painful and full of problems. Such problems do not occur if one of you is out of body. In that situation, the soul connection is uppermost and so your relationship can be at its most harmonious. If you have a soul mate who is not in body, you can often learn to have an internal dialogue or receive dream messages from him or her, and this can comfort you, help you grow, and help you toward a better relationship next time you are both in body.
To learn more about whether you yourself have a soul mate living in body now, and what the outlook is for meeting and creating a good earth life together, I always recommend that you have a personal reading with a psychic, channel, or other intuitive reader that you trust. It requires going into depth and detail beyond what can be done briefly on this web page.
As to the loneliness and sense of incompleteness, whether or not you find a soul mate in or out of body, these feelings in you reflect a passage you are going through on your spiritual path.They are a painful spur to help you get out of the old mindset that leads you to believe that you are separate, and that there is something or someone “out there” which will make you complete. You are complete. But to realize and enjoy your completeness, you must get beyond the level of your limited everyday self, which is usually so dominated by the narrow ideas of your mind/ego. If you stay in the limited mind focus, you will never be satisfied because you’ll be looking for your completeness and fulfillment in the wrong place. So, go beyond the everyday level into the infinitely deep and joyful level of your larger Self. On this ASK VYWAMUS page and on my NEWS page you can read a number of my suggestions on meditation and other ways to get beyond the level of everyday reality. When you spend time there in that larger Reality beyond the everyday, suffering disappears, and you will know without doubt that you are complete and that you are not alone, but are always held lovingly in the deep Aliveness that is the root of your being.
Now, of course we guides know that even while you practice and enjoy being in that larger Reality, you still need company and love from other humans in the everyday world. You are not expected to lead a totally self-sufficient and isolated life. Sometimes after you let go of the need to be completed by another, a soul mate appears. Other times that does not happen but you realize that you have much support and love around you that you were ignoring while focusing on needing “the one and only” person. Or you realize that you need to focus for awhile on loving yourself, before you can let love in from others. Just be assured that you will have enough love, that love is being given to you, at this moment and always. Let it in, of course. But don’t expect the limited love of anyone to make you a complete person, that will not happen even if the soul mate shows up. No other can make you complete because you already are. You must let yourself move to the level where you can notice and acknowledge that. The bonus is that if you do that, any earthly relationships you do have will be much better than if you had put expectations on them that are impossible to fulfill.
I send my love and blessing to all of you who are working on relationships. That truly is one of the most rewarding, and demanding, experiences of being human.
Warmly,
Vywamus