How can I cancel a strong negative influence…directed by somebody against me? I have been advised… that this person’s envy, and desire (that I not)…succeed, … is very strong…I don’t know…if this person is in my present or from a past time… Regardless, I would like to terminate for good any connection…
Betina
Dear Betina,
I’ve selected your question because you’re ready to hear what I have to say, and also because there are other readers who struggle with similar issues and will benefit from reading this. What you are experiencing has been distressing and frustrating for you up to now, but there is hope.
So, you have been thinking that this negative energy you describe is coming from a malevolent person from this life or the past, dogging you and persistently interfering with the fulfillment of your dreams, perhaps even wishing you harm. And of course your natural reaction is to want to protect yourself and cut off all contact with this person so that he or she cannot affect you any more. Yet you haven’t been able to do this so far, and there’s a good reason why. This entity is a past self of your own that has stayed with you into this lifetime.
You experience this past self as an “other” person, and some psychics might read it that way. And indeed this past self is very different from the person you are now. Yet it is still a part of you, carried in your energy field. You could say that it’s a part of your “spiritual DNA” in this lifetime. What you’ve been doing so far is like trying to cut off a part of yourself. That never works. This is why you’ve failed to get rid of it.
The trick is that, rather than cutting off this part of you from another lifetime that feels like an intruder, you need to actually improve your connection with it, make peace with it, and even perhaps transform it into an ally. This is quite possible, and indeed it’s one of the things you came into this life to do. I’ll outline the process for you here. You will also find more detail about how to do this in some of the other letters from this ASK VYWAMUS page.
For the benefit of other readers, I add that the advice I give here and the steps I suggest apply just as well whether the problem is with a part of yourself, or whether is seems to be with an outside entity. The steps are the same.
Now, before you can move out of this long and difficult time, and embark on changing this part of yourself into an ally, you must first complete the lessons this struggle has brought you. What have you thought and felt, learned about yourself, about others, and about the world, from the presence of this negative energy in your life, and from your efforts to understand and deal with it?
This difficult experience has been given you for a purpose, and the sooner you notice and accept the lessons you have been learning, the sooner the purpose can be fulfilled and you can go on to other things. Don’t be in a hurry to say “I have learned nothing, gotten nothing from this painful experience.” Dig deeper. There is something there in the process you have been going through that you need to notice and receive.
For example, maybe you have learned through it that, though you hate the experience, you have the strength to survive it. Maybe you have learned that others can help — or, that they don’t , and you have learned how to be on your own. Maybe your experience of the negative energy coming from outside has led you to try out ways to deal with other forms of oppression or attack in your everyday life, and you’ve learned some things that work and some that don’t. These are three examples that may or may not apply to you. You may find many more.
So I advise you, first take some time just to explore what these lessons are about for you. Do this before you go on to take my next advice, or it will not work as well.
After you’ve discovered at least some of the learnings this difficult time has brought you, you can go on to the next step: learning to communicate with this past self of yours. You must hold some conversations with this past self. In these conversations, the basic idea is that you each have a chance to express how you feel, and what you want or need. And when you do this, each of you has a chance to listen and better understand the other, and to eventually work together toward an end to this struggle, and something better in the future.
By the way, it’s helpful if you record or write down some of these conversations. Reviewing them later can be useful.
Of course, after all this time of conflict, there’ll probably be some antagonism on both sides, and some reluctance to talk. That’s natural. And don’t be surprised if your talks in fact get very heated. But you can get through it because, I assure you, under it all, both of you want the same thing. Both of you are sick of all this and are really ready to go on to something better. Even if you have to work together!
It’s easier if you have a trusted counselor to guide you through this conversation process, but there’s no reason you can’t do it yourself. And here’s how you may begin. As you have stated in your letter, it seems clear that at least one of the things you want is to have more success in the things you undertake in this life. What you don’t yet know is why this past self has been holding you back. You must talk to this part of you and ask it why it’s doing so.
When you ask this question, an answer may come clearly into your mind in thoughts or words. Or, feelings of anger or fear or sorrow may come up. These feelings will likely be about something that past self experienced in that past life, and sometimes also about past events in your present life. You may begin to get some images of what happened in the past. Or, it may remain at the feeling level and you don’t remember particular events. That’s all right either way. Simply stay with any feelings that arise, whether you get memories or images or not. And to strengthen your understanding, express any feelings you have through your body. Find a private place and shout, or moan, or say any words that come to you. Stamp your feet or cower, or jump around, or weep – or laugh. Whatever comes to you.
This is very important. Don’t skip this step. It is your main way of bonding with that self of the past, and the beginning of its becoming your ally. So, first you feel with this past self, so that you can really understand it. And then ask it, “What do you need?” In particular, what does it need from you?
Be open and be patient. You’ll begin to get a sense of what’s needed. It may, in fact, be very simple. This past self may simply need to be seen and heard, and it may resist cooperating with you and even mess up your plans, just because it’s waiting for you to notice it, acknowledge it, understand it, even perhaps help it.
Find out for yourself what is needed. What does this past self want? And, what might you want in return? Start with that. Keep going with the conversation until you have a clear sense of what each of you wants and what each of you is willing to give. This may take a few minutes or a few days. Take as much time as you need to test out how much you can trust each other. Then, give what you’re willing to give. Receive what you get in return. And as you stay with it, the trust and the benefits can grow.
Do take your time on all of this. It’s not a detour, it’s a part of your path. And it’s worth it. The hostile and stubborn part of you that has been your opponent can be transformed into a friend and ally. And this is good. To move forward you need all the parts of you working together. And they can.
As you do this work, you will also notice you’re freeing up a great deal of your own energy which up to now has been bound up in feeling harassed, tense, frustrated in your aims, and oppressed by the part of you that’s been holding you back. Unblocked, this energy can now power you forward more easily, And it will also attract the energy of those other people who can offer opportunities for you to open up new areas of your life.
You have struggled long enough, now it is time for you to be free! Good luck on your next steps, enjoy them. And call on me when you need my energy.
I am with you,
Vywamus