(Dear Vywamus),
I’ve been speaking to angels and guides for some time, I try to meditate regularly, I have much I’m grateful for – yet I’m still overshadowed by fear, negativity, intolerance and impatience. Does anyone hear me? Please help me to understand what I need to do differently.
Thank you.
Ann
Dear Ann,
It is some months since you wrote your question, and I and other guides with me have been following you closely, sending you dreams that could be helpful, and putting people and events in your way that could help lead you out of the stage of frustration you express in your email. Many other readers of this page are in either a similar stage of frustration on their path, or may eventually come to it. Sometimes for a long period it may seem to you that you are flying solo, and though you may believe we are there, you may not be able to feel it. Often we let you make your way through this difficult patch for a while, and give you the opportunity to discover on your own what to do. This has been the case with you, and I would like to commend you. You have done well in being in touch with the higher energies, and in persevering on your path. You have taken some steps since you wrote, yet we guides are aware that you still have some areas where you could use help. So we have some additional suggestions for you.
For you and other readers who feel that they have made some progress but are still struggling with negativity in one form or another, my first recommendation is that you do all you think you can do, all that you are inspired to do, and then surrender. At that point, just give in, accept, allow, and surrender to the feeling of frustration, incompleteness, not knowing what to do, or what to try to do to get through this stage. As far as you are able, come to terms with, be at peace with, the present situation, which is that you are not yet where you want to be. Practice being at peace with that and not striving to be somewhere else.
Now while you are working on this surrender, many emotions will naturally come up. Some of these will be emotions related to beliefs and life issues that have been blocks on your path. It will be helpful if you can welcome these emotions. So if fear or sadness or anger or judgment of self or other feelings come up while you are trying to surrender to the present moment, don’t ignore them or try to get rid of them. Surrender to the fear, sadness, anger, or judgment. Accept it. Feel it and be with it in your heart and in your body. You don’t have to fight with it. See if you can learn how it began.
Any emotion that comes to you, no matter how negative it seems, arose from some positive purpose within you. It may have been to defend yourself, to keep you safe from being hurt or criticized, or for any number of other reasons. Before you can move on, it is essential to find the positive kernel or purpose in the midst of the negative feeling and acknowledge and appreciate it.
It is also important to recognize the limiting beliefs that are the source of your negative emotions. These beliefs may have been formed very early in your learning about the world, and while they may have been useful then, they may not be now, and may in fact be blocking your progress.
For more detail on how to work with limiting beliefs and the negative emotions that go with them, look on this ASK VYWAMUS page for the letter to Wendy on 7-23-13. While she is working on the issue of doubt, the steps I suggest there can work equally well applied to the fear, negativity, intolerance and impatience you describe – and indeed to any other negative emotions that come up.
Please remember also, as I so often remind all of you, these negative emotions and blocks you encounter are not “detours” on your path – they are your path. When you can accept them as such and work with them, they become powerful movers that propel you along toward the purpose, peace, and joy that are your true destiny in this earth life.
In the midst of all this, and for all other readers as well, at whatever stage of your path you find yourself, be sure that I and other guides and teachers are always with you. Do call on us whenever you wish!
Affectionately,
Vywamus