Dear Vywamus,
A Call from Denmark
The other day I read about you in a book of Doreen Virtue and felt deeply that I … had to try and get in contact with you. I found this fantastic website… Thank you Andrea for sharing and giving this to us and thank you Vywamus for your beloved and enriched answers.
I seek for… guidance in my personal life and would have liked an individual setting but it’s not possible for me right now. I try this instead thinking that some of my… life themes may be recognizable to others.
One of the main themes is fear. How to face and transform fear, how to avoid creating and attracting fearful situations and people that can bring fear into your life, and to find out when fear is an illusion or real and you therefore need to act and need protection … I want to have the courage to be who I am and stand up for my beliefs… I so much feel that I need a spiritual teacher now in order to open up to find answers but I just don’t know how and where to find such a teacher.
I will be grateful if you will spent some time on giving me some advice.
Thank you. Yours sincerely,
Gitte
Dear Gitte,
From Andrea and myself, you are most welcome, and we are both glad you have found us on this web site. And we hear and understand your struggle. It isn’t surprising that you often feel the lack of a spiritual teacher, as do so many others. This is partly because you’re living in a time of transition, where forms are changing.
Gradually you are all becoming your own spiritual teachers and finding the guidance you need within yourselves rather than at the feet of a master. But meanwhile, in the transition, you may feel somewhat lost and alone, which is why I and other guides who work with me come to you in dreams, or in meditation, and also through books you may read, people you may encounter, and here on the Internet, of course. Even before you received this response to your questions – in fact, as soon as you asked them – I and other guides have been working with you both in dreams and while you’re awake, to bring you insights and help you shift your energies into a more satisfying pattern for you.
Now to your main question: What about fear? Fear is an amazing teacher for you and for all humans. It can be one of the greatest helps on your spiritual path. And to begin with, the most important thing to remember is, don’t fight it or try to make it go away, or even try to transform it. Instead, if you can find a way to fully accept your fear and even embrace it as an ally in your learning, it will eventually transform itself. When fear comes up in a situation, the first thing to do is pay attention and watch it arise. The second thing is to keep breathing. The third thing is to say to the fear, in some form, “ I accept you as part of my everyday reality right now.”
Part of you will be watching, breathing, and accepting, and part of you may well be submerged in the fear, your mind repeating over all the things you fear will happen, your emotions and body reacting, tightening up, perhaps your stomach in knots, your breathing faster, and so on. Maybe at some point you will get totally submerged in fear. That’s all right, it’s just part of the learning process.
At that point, if you can take some time in a private place, it can be very helpful to accept the fear I a bodily way. Move your body in tune with the fear, let the fear flow through it. Express your fear in movements, make fearful noises, and keep breathing long, deep breaths and letting them out fully. You may want to moan or whimper, or make short exclamations such as, “Oh no!” or “I’m so afraid,” or whatever comes up. Stay with the feeling. Don’t let the mind get involved in explaining all the reasons you are afraid, just feel.
As you do this, you may gradually notice, underneath the fear, a deep sense of energy and aliveness. Your fear may gradually shift into another emotion, possibly anger, or determination. If so, stay with that feeling for a while and see where it leads. Make movements, sounds, and statements to go with the new feelings. You may now find yourself saying things like “No, I won’t!” or “Yes, I will!” or “Never again!” and so forth.
The first time you work with your emotions in this way, you may feel this shift, and your body, if you keep paying attention to it, and breathing, will guide you into what to do next. If you don’t feel a shift the first time around, keep going. At the very least you will be relieving some of the static and pressure of your fearful thoughts by letting them flow through the body and not stay trapped going round and round in your head. Definitely a step in the right direction!
After this work, when the fear pressure is a bit lessened, take some time to meditate in whatever form you like to use. There are many good books and recordings to help you get into the deeper and broader levels of your consciousness, beyond your everyday worries and concerns. Go there as often as you can. Healing and comfort are there, along with the awareness of the great force of life within yourself, and the awareness of the You that is always all right and never can be harmed – the You that need never fear. When you are in this state of being, you need no protection and need not be concerned with protection. Any action that you need to take in your everyday life will arise of itself from this state of deep aliveness, without your figuring it all out with your mind. You will be led to do the “right’ things. You can trust this guidance.
So go to this place often until you feel and know for yourself that deep sense of peace, trust, and aliveness. It is your destiny and that of all humans to be more and more in this state of consciousness. And thank the fear that pushed you into finding it.
These steps I suggest will help you if you try them. They will also help with the other challenges you are facing. Please know that I and other guides fully understand how it is to be you, to feel fear and to face the many situations you have to deal with. And of course, go inside and call on us at any time for our help and support.
Warmly,
Vywamus