Dear Vywamus,
My question relates to the issue of DESTINY. I’ve been married to my wife Tutti for thirty four years now
and we have two beautiful daughters Cecily-Anna and Sonia. Although I had been a serial dater with any
girlfriends prior to meeting Tutti, it seemed at the time that our meeting was ‘destined’ to take place. A “Cosmic Connection” as it were. Can you please explain to me if soulmate connections such as ours are predetermined and how are they established before the experiential existence?
Truth, Love and Light,
Paul
Dear Paul,
This is indeed a question of interest to many of you on earth at this time. In a few words, yes, the soul mate bond is predetermined, but this is a predetermination that each of your souls helped design long before you came into bodies.
From before the beginning, you and every other human are and always were one with the Oneness of Being (the Prime or Universal Field of Energy). This Energy is constantly creating Itself into an infinite number of forms, forms which are still always one with the universal Oneness, and never separate from It. Every one of these forms has awareness and will, and its own unique patterns of the primal Energy, and every one of these forms is a matrix from which new forms can evolve. In the case of soul creation, for simplicity we can call these matrices “oversouls.” (Various writers have defined the term “oversoul” in different ways, but this is how I am using it here.)
Supported by guidance from the very highest levels of Energy, an oversoul may choose to evolve in many possible ways. It may evolve into a single soul, a pair or group of individual souls, or even into a single soul divided into two or more parts. This evolution begins at very high levels, on the spiritual or numinous, energy planes, and long before individual souls journey into the astral and physical realms of existence. As souls from the same oversoul make this journey toward the level of physical incarnation, because they have so many energy patterns in common, there is a feeling of kinship and familiarity among them, a feeling of being bonded and “at home” with each other. This is what you know as the soul mate connection.
Before taking on a body, you may make agreements with each other about what paths you will take, when you will meet, and so on. And because of your similar energy patterns, you are often drawn to similar times, places and activities in physical life. When you then encounter each other in bodily form, you often experience a sense of recognition at a very deep level – sometimes with great clarity. At other times you come to know each other more gradually, starting with a simple, growing feeling of belonging or being “right” with each other. There is often a sense of “of course!” about this soul bond you have.
Then, because being together in physical life is so comforting and satisfying, and thus allows you to focus also on reaching your other goals in life, you meet often and become more and more familiar with each other on the physical level as you develop a physical history. Of course, every soul has its individual paths of development as well, and you bring your unfinished learnings and “baggage” into any physical life you enter. So meeting your soul mate in a particular life is not always a wonderful panacea for all the suffering and confusion you may have experienced in other lives. Much of the joy and peace in living a physical life with a soul mate depends on how much you each have already evolved. If one or both of you still has many issues to deal with, then being together may be a great support for doing so, but you will still have many ups and downs, and much hard work to do. It will not be the fairy tale existence that you might hope for. On the other hand, when each of you has done a good measure of evolving, your life together, though it will of course still have some of the challenges of any physical existence, will usually, at its core, be quite joyful, peaceful, and relatively uncomplicated. So if this is you, enjoy!
It is important to note, by the way, that for soul mates, or for anyone who is living such a happy and relatively struggle free life as I describe, one of the great gifts you can give to the world is to spread this joy and comfort to all who come in contact with you. You do this mainly just by being and radiating your energies out to others. You do not have to argue them out of their suffering, or get them to change their ways, or take on the responsibility for their awakening. Simply by allowing yourself to enjoy the happiness you have, and meeting life’s challenges with as much grace and balance as you can, you send them joyful energy and provide them with a model. Through you they see that such a life as yours is actually possible, and they receive hope and inspiration, if they are open to it. This may even lead them to a turning point they need, and make all the difference in their lives.
I hope you and Tutti, and others reading this who have reached some degree of balance and happiness in this life, will make the intention to continue to enjoy each other and your life to the fullest possible, and to consciously send out and share your blessings and your light with others around you. Your world needs that joy.
Thank you for writing and for sharing your joy on this Page.
Warmly,
Vywamus